Psalm 46:10 Meaning: Finding Stillness in the Middle of Pregnancy Loss
365 Mental Health Devotional Challenge: Day 59
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Devotional
Psalm 46:10
“Be still, and know that I am God.”
Mental Health Insight – Miscarriages will often have us searching for the reason “why”.
“Why did this happen?”
“Why couldn’t I keep the pregnancy?”
“Why did God let this happen?”
Our brain starts to enter this endless cycle of trying to figure out what went wrong. It’s an attempt to understand the pain we are experiencing and a hope to prevent it from happening again. However, this will often cause an individual to start internalizing blaming themselves for something that was completely outside of their control. When something doesn’t make sense our brain will try to find a reason. The same way when we are having a panic attack our brain jumps to “Oh! This is a heart attack.”, even though you are definitely NOT having a heart attack. But our brains don’t understand this, and as a result it targets the only place it can, which is you.
In psychology, these negative thoughts can be addressed through something called cognitive diffusions. Cognitive diffusion is the practice of actively detaching from these thoughts, by separating yourself from the “what ifs” and “if only”.
Faith Connection – It is normal for us to try to figure out the “why” after a loss. Oftentimes we will find ourselves searching for the answer only to end up staring in the mirror pointing the finger. The loss of a child is an unimaginable pain that many of us never expected we would encounter, and oftentimes the hardest part of that loss is sitting still in the presence of God. Despite these heavy and often dark moments, God is calling us to be still. He is not saying you shouldn’t be sad, upset, or angry, but rather He is calling you to sit WITH Him so He can grieve right alongside you. He can handle any emotion that comes up, so let Him join you in this process of grieving.
Activity: As someone who has experienced miscarriages I know how heavy that burden can be. However, whenever I start to miss my sweet babies one of my favorite things to do is to invite God into my moment of grief. I will often light a candle and have a moment of prayer. But the most important part of this prayer is where I actually give God a “To-do list” for my little ones.
For example, I’ll ask God to teach them a cart-wheel, take them to eat some yummy rocky road ice cream, play a puzzle with them, or even teach them how to make their mom’s favorite food CHINESE TAKEOUT!
Grief is a funny thing, and struggling with infertility was definitely not on my bingo card for marriage. However, we have two options. We can spend time blaming ourselves or we can keep God busy with our little ones until we get there! And I cannot WAIT to hear all the fun things they got to do with our Heavenly Father during some of the hardest moments here on earth.
Reflection Question: If I stopped trying to solve the “why” of this loss for just five minutes today, what would I want to say to God?
Prayer: Dear God, right now my understanding is broken and my heart is heavy with “why.” I confess that I have tried to carry the weight of this loss by trying to explain it away or blame myself. Please quiet the noise of my intrusive thoughts. I choose to lean my full weight on You today because I have no strength left to stand on my own. Thank You for holding my little one in Your arms and for holding me in my grief. I trust You even when I cannot see the path ahead. Amen.
Additional Resources
Held: 31 Biblical Reflections on God’s Care and Comfort in Pregnancy Loss by Abbey Wedgeworth
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Closing Thoughts
You have completed Day 59 out of 365 Days of our 2026 Mental Health Devotional Challenge. You know the drill by now! Let me know what you think in the comments below and don’t forget to share with a friend that may need some biblical mental health motivation.
I hope you all have the best and most blessed day!
Sierra Stratman MSW LMSW U/S PhD Student
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That’s a creative way to sit with God in the midst of loss, to focus on what He and the departed are going to do today.
I would sit with him as if he was stroking my hair because this has happened. I would ask him if he could hold me I would thank him and praise him for what I don’t understand because at the end of the day he is sovereign and I trust his plan. Much more than what I thought mine should have been. I would rather my babies be in his arms.