3 Practical Steps to Setting Boundaries as a Christian

This post is about faith based coping skills for setting boundaries.

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Today, we will be learning how to set boundaries as a Christian by learning how to slow down before we answer. Learning faith based coping skills do not have to be difficult. Setting boundaries can help take the weight off our shoulders and improve our over relationship with Christ. So, let’s get started!

Faith Based Coping Skill: The “Pause and Pivot”

Matthew 5:37 “All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”

Have you ever panicked and said yes before you even had a chance to think? People-please can cause us to make commitments before we even realize what we are doing. To break this habit, one can practice the Pause and Pivot by following these steps: 

Step 1: Pause and take a deep breath to calm your nervous system the moment someone makes a request. 

Step 2: Pivot by saying, “Let me check my schedule and get back to you,” which buys your brain time to process. 

Step 3: Reflect on your energy levels in private before giving your final, honest answer. This allows your brain to make the most honest decision without the influence of others. 

Reflection Question

Who in your life is the hardest person to say no to and how can you practice the pause and pivot with them this week?

Prayer

Dear God, I confess that I often say yes when I really need to say no because I am afraid of disappointing others. Thank You for the permission to speak honestly, clearly, and simply. Help me to practice pausing today so I can protect my peace and honor the limits You have given me. Amen.

Book Recommendations

• “The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands” by Lysa TerKeurst – A wonderful faith-based book that helps you stop saying yes to everyone else so you can save your energy for the things God actually called you to do.

• “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” by Nedra Glover Tawwab – An incredibly practical educational guide on how to confidently communicate your needs and stop the draining cycle of people-pleasing.

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Closing Thoughts 

You have completed Day 116 out of 365 Days of our 2026 Mental Health Devotional Challenge. Learning how to say no can be difficult at first. However, it will actually help your relationship around you! Allow yourself to say no, so you can take time to rest!

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