3 Steps on How to Deal with Abuse as a Christian
This post is about Christian abuse and how to deal with abuse as a Christian.
Written by a previous trauma therapist, a Licensed Master Social Worker, and current PhD Student learning how to bridge the gap between theology and psychology.
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At some point in their life every Christian will be confronted with an abuse situation. Learning how to deal with abuse as a Christian is essential in our walk with God. Confronting Christian abuse can feel scary and overwhelming but we can learn how to address abuse from a Biblical lens. Let’s jump right in!
How to Handle Abuse?
Despite secular belief, God does not tolerate abuse. When we turn a blind eye to harm, it is only a matter of time before sin spreads. Christ calls us to love one another and to protect the vulnerable and innocent. In fact, abuse is a violation of The IMAGO DEI (God’s image). No matter an individual’s age, gender, race, ethnicity, etc. Christ demands respect for all of His children and it is our job to hold each other accountable. Although, what happens when we turn a blind eye ourselves? Let’s look at the story of Dianh, King David’s daughter.
Abuse is a Sin
Scripture Focus: 2 Samuel 13:1-22 (The Story of Tamar)
In 2 Samuel 13, we read the heartbreaking story of Tamar, David’s daughter, and her brother Amnon. Amnon, driven by lust, forces himself on Tamar. Afterward, he despises her, and David, despite hearing of the horrific event, does nothing to intervene or pursue justice. The story unfolds tragically, and the failure of David to address the sin leads to consequences within his family.
The lack of justice contributed to further destruction within David’s family. Absalom, Tamar’s brother, eventually took matters into his own hands and killed Amnon. This act of vengeance set off a chain of tragic events, including Absalom’s rebellion against David and his eventual death.
Abuse in the Bible
- Turning Our Eyes From Sin Leads To More Harm
Because David was not reactive to protecting his daughter, sin had the opportunity to spread and affect more individuals than originally.
- God Calls Us To Stand Up Against Sin
Ephesians 5:11 (NIV): “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.”
God is very specific on confronting sins not only in our own lives but also the lives of others. It is our job to be courageous and to stand up for righteousness, especially for those who do not have the ability to stand up for themselves.
- Healing and Justice Are Crucial
When we turn a blind eye to sin we are not only sinning against the Lord, but we are also compounding the trauma experienced by the other individual. We must be proactive in helping guide, support, and protect those within our communities from injustice. When people go through hardships Christ sends us to help individuals process the harm they have endured, and to help them let the Lord heal them.
How to Confront Abuse?
Disclaimer: If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation and is in need of help please contact 911, a trusted adult, or a professional. The information within this blog is for educational purposes only.
- We must address what sin is taking place.
Proverbs 28:13 (NIV): “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”
- We must take action against the sin.
Luke 17:3-4 (NIV): “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.”
- We must support the vulnerable and oppressed in their time of need.
Galatians 6:1-2 (NIV): “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Christian Journal Reflection Questions
- What was the consequence of David ignoring the abuse towards his daughter? Why do you think he ignored it?
- How can we guard against ignoring sin in our own lives and the lives of others?
- What role does justice play in the healing process after sin or wrongdoing has occurred?
- How can we support others who have been harmed by sin, especially when those around them fail to take action?
Additional Resources
Is It Abuse: By Darby Strickland
Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused: By Brad Handbrick
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