3 Practical Steps to Setting Boundaries as a Christian
This post is about faith based coping skills for setting boundaries.
Written by a previous trauma therapist, a Licensed Master Social Worker, and current Student working toward her PHD learning how to bridge the gap between theology and psychology.
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Today, we will be learning how to set boundaries as a Christian by learning how to slow down before we answer. Learning faith based coping skills do not have to be difficult. Setting boundaries can help take the weight off our shoulders and improve our over relationship with Christ. So, let’s get started!
Faith Based Coping Skill: The “Pause and Pivot”
Matthew 5:37 “All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”
Have you ever panicked and said yes before you even had a chance to think? People-please can cause us to make commitments before we even realize what we are doing. To break this habit, one can practice the Pause and Pivot by following these steps:
Step 1: Pause and take a deep breath to calm your nervous system the moment someone makes a request.
Step 2: Pivot by saying, “Let me check my schedule and get back to you,” which buys your brain time to process.
Step 3: Reflect on your energy levels in private before giving your final, honest answer. This allows your brain to make the most honest decision without the influence of others.
Reflection Question
Who in your life is the hardest person to say no to and how can you practice the pause and pivot with them this week?
Prayer
Dear God, I confess that I often say yes when I really need to say no because I am afraid of disappointing others. Thank You for the permission to speak honestly, clearly, and simply. Help me to practice pausing today so I can protect my peace and honor the limits You have given me. Amen.
Christian Book Recommendations
“The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands” by Lysa TerKeurst – A wonderful faith-based book that helps you stop saying yes to everyone else so you can save your energy for the things God actually called you to do. The perfect read for anyone trying to honor God and their personal boundaries.
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“Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” by Nedra Glover Tawwab – An incredibly practical educational guide on how to confidently communicate your needs and stop the draining cycle of people-pleasing. Learning how to set boundaries does not have to be complicated. This guide is perfect to help you lay out practical God honoring steps!
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Closing Thoughts
I hope today’s blog post was not only educational but also helped you draw closer to God. If you or someone you know struggling to find peace and want guidance, please connect with a therapist today! Check out TherapyforChristians.com to get connected with a faith-based provider in your area!
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Both me and my husband have a problem with this. We will say yes but now we are trying to check our calendars first and thoughtfully make a decision together so we don’t have to cancel on others, appointments or plans already in motion.